A stay-at-home mum has been left fuming after her husband refused to cook or clean because he sees those as her jobs – even though she’s currently pregnant and unwell
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A woman who is experiencing “bad sickness” while 15 weeks pregnant with her second child has been left furious at her husband – because he won’t do anything to help around the house.
Posting on Mumsnet, the woman explained she’s been facing an illness that means she can’t be around food smells for too long without wanting to be sick, which means she hasn’t been able to cook for herself, her husband, or their four-year-old child.
The woman, who is a stay-at-home mum also hasn’t been able to keep on top of cleaning the house during her pregnancy as much as she would have liked to – but has been getting no help from her husband.
In her post, she said: “I’m 15 weeks pregnant with my second child. I still have bad sickness that lasts all day. I can’t stand a lot of food smells, especially cooking smells and it can make me instantly need to run to the bathroom to be sick. My diet is terrible. I weigh less now than before I was pregnant with my first child.
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“I’m also exhausted (no doubt the bad diet isn’t helping) and a stay-at-home mum to my first child who is four and autistic and a handful. Before my pregnancy sickness, I did all the from-scratch cooking (fresh meat and vegetables) and cleaning.
“My husband can’t cook anything other than frozen ready meals and the house is a tip at the moment. The living room gets covered with toys and books and gets worse until I tidy it up. Am I being unreasonable to think it’s not that hard to cook and make something like a bolognese, and my husband should be cooking some non-ready meal foods while I am pregnant?”
The mum insisted her husband doesn’t know how to cook, clean, do DIY or drive, and has previously left the house in a complete state when she was too ill to get out of bed and clean it herself.
She added: “He is 36 years old and can’t cook or clean. I had to scrub the bathtub at 8 and a half months pregnant. Once I asked him to clean the sink and he wiped it down with toilet paper. He can’t do DIY or drive. Yes I’m a stay-at-home mum but surely at his age, he should be able to do these things for occasions when I am unable due to bad pregnancy sickness or illness.
“Last year I was bedridden for a week with the worse stomach bug I have ever had. I couldn’t keep anything down for 2 days and barely ate for a week. I slept and woke up every few hours to use the bathroom, and my husband and son lived on ready meals and pizza for a week. No fresh vegetables at all. The house was a complete tip as well.”
Commenters on the post branded the woman’s husband “lazy”, as they claimed it was easy to use the internet to find out how to make simple meals with little to no culinary skills.
One person said: “He’s being lazy. In this day of the internet and YouTube, he can find step-by-step instructions with videos of how to cook something simple.
“There are lots of things you can eat that don’t require much cooking, especially as the weather warms up and hot food is less ‘necessary’. It might not be his favourite thing to do, cooking and cleaning, but he can do at least the essentials.
While another added: “He’s a grownup, not a child. He should be cooking his fair share of family meals whether you are ill or not. If he doesn’t know how, he should roll his sleeves up and learn.”
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